Perception - Mine or Yours?

Perception is defined in that manner I really don't appreciate or "get" - "to perceive" - what? - the act of perceiving" - huhhhhhhhh? - "The neurological processes by which such recognition and interpretation are effected." Amazingly I like that one best. If perception is used to define a behavior, then who could or would deign to perceive whose perception is the correct perception?

For example, if it is my perception that a man is totally obsessed with me to the point where I am afraid I might bump into him in the hallway or the elevator, to the point where I run out of the office if he is there, to the point where I park in a totally different spot because he is now parking near me - then I believe intuitively based upon my neurological processes of recognition and interpretation that he is obsessed and stalking me!

However, if he claims to have feelings for me (not neurological by the way) and thinks he is being nice and caring and that it must be okay because he's a good guy, then it is his perception that he is not obsessed or stalking because he would never do that because he has feelings. To me that is ignorant - I mean imagine the things a person could do to another person because "they" have feelings are trying to be nice!

Both of us believe our own perceptions to be accurate - I believe his to be complete and total psycho bullshit. When any stupid man annoys and scares me to the point of running out of my office, it is my perception that I am doing a fight or flight response to fear. When I tell someone repeatedly to leave me the f alone and they still continue to e-mail me and be "friendly", I perceive that to be harassment.

Obviously, my perception is the right one. I don't care what anyone says. Now he can sign an agreement in which he will agree to leave me alone. I perceive that to be exactly what I asked for in the first place!

I have a lot of pent-up feelings and thoughts about this stalking thing and perhaps I will write on it again.